Modern men and women of all sexual orientations enjoy the sensation that these plugs provide, so whether you want to use your butt plug for foreplay before engaging in satisfying anal intercourse or wear it while you clean the house, it’s highly likely that you do so because it makes you feel good. This makes it a very valuable sex toy.
If you’re a beginner and have never before purchased a butt plug, it is natural for you to wonder what all the fuss is about. There’s no need to worry if you’re interested in getting a butt plug but are worried it might hurt or be uncomfortable.
When used correctly, along with appropriate anal training, a butt plug can provide an amazing experience each and every time. In fact, many people think it feels so good that they prefer this type of sexual stimulation over all of the others, and there’s a good reason why this is so. Understanding how to use a butt plug safely is also a plus, so you can forget about worrying, and just focus on the fun part.
THE MANY PARTS USED IN THE BUTT PLUG
If you’re new to butt plugs, the best thing you can do is go slowly, because the one thing you can’t do with one of these toys is rush through it.
If you do, it will be painful, which means you will most likely never try this type of activity again and will thus miss out on a lot of fun. In fact, the two most important things to remember when learning how to use a butt plug are:
Slowly build up to the point of insertion.
Even if you’re used to this type of play, always use a lot of lube.
You can begin by deciding which type of butt plug to use, and for beginners, it is always best to start small. Butt plugs are tapered so that you can insert the small tip first, then work your way up to the thicker end.
Metal and stainless-steel butt plugs are typically not recommended for beginners due to their inflexibility; instead, use a softer material such as silicone.
Using a butt plug includes a number of steps, all of which should be completed slowly. You’ll never regret going slowly because going fast will make you uncomfortable. Toys smaller than a butt plug, such as a beginner dildo or a small soft dildo, are also recommended.
Furthermore, for the best results, make sure you apply your lube to both yourself and the toy. Remember, there is no such thing as too much lube when it comes to anal play, so use it liberally every time.
Keep in mind that some of these steps are dependent on why you’re using the butt plug in the first place.
Whether you want to use it for foreplay, to prepare the anal muscles for sex, or because you want to wear it out in public, keep this in mind throughout each step.
The process isn’t set in stone, and you can make it your own by adjusting it as needed.
FEELINGS BEFORE INSERTION
If you’re new to this game and you’re already getting excited about the process, that will only help you later on. Playtime with a butt plug of any kind requires both psychological and physical preparation.
Setting the proper mood is essential, whether you’re playing with your butt plug by yourself or with a partner. This is the same mood you want for any kind of sexual activity.
This means dimming the lights, finding a comfortable position, and maybe even having a glass of wine.
Why is this so important? Because just like other types of sexual activity, you have to be relaxed if you’re going to get the most out of butt plug use.
If you’re nervous at first, that’s fine, but you can relax much faster if you simply set a romantic mood before proceeding.
You can also try teasing your legs, buttocks, and thighs with the butt plug first because this will have your body looking forward to what happens next.
If you’re with someone, you can have them give you an erotic massage, because every time you do something to set the mood, you’re one step closer to your ultimate goal, which is to have a great time with that butt plug.
Watching porn is also beneficial, but there is one thing you should always remember. Regardless of how excited you get, always remember that the anus doesn’t self-lubricate as the vagina does, so excitement is never a substitute for using the right amount of lube.
Once you get to the point where you feel like you can handle inserting the butt plug, you still need to take it slowly and use a lot of lube.
Consider this activity to be divided into four distinct stages, each with its own set of rules that must be followed in order for you to enjoy your butt plug.
STAGE ONE: THE TIP
Butt plugs are always tapered at the very tip, which is inserted first into the rectum. It’s important that you never try to shove the plug too far in there at first because this could be painful.
In fact, if you’re a newbie, it’s best just to insert the very tip in the beginning, and then keep it there for a while, because you’ll need to get completely comfortable with each stage before you move on to the next one.
You will have applied a lot of lube before beginning, of course, but to ensure that you stay nice and wet the entire time, feel free to reapply if you feel your anus becoming dry or irritated.
It’s normal to have to reapply the lube multiple times, so there’s no need to worry. The best way to stay comfortable while playing with your butt plug is to make sure you’re well lubricated.
To get used to what’s inside, move the tip around the anus or in and out for a little while after inserting it.
The rectum has several different parts, and eventually, you’ll be able to explore all of them with your butt plug and enjoy the ecstasy that it brings. The first few times you use the plug, you may only be able to insert the very tip of it and nothing else, but not to worry.
Over time, both you and your anal muscles will get used to the activity, and you’ll be able to insert the plug even further.
Keep in mind that the tip of the butt plug also works to stretch out those anal muscles, because they are very tight muscles at first.
You shouldn’t be concerned about your anal muscles ever becoming too loose because once they stretch to a certain extent, they won’t stretch any further.
However, when you first start using your butt plug, this won’t be a concern for you, so taking your time goes a long way in stretching out those muscles without too much pain on your part.
STAGE TWO: THE STRETCH
The first part of the anus contains sensitive nerve endings, so if just the tip of the butt plug is inserted, it may feel a little like a tickle and not much else.
It can also feel like you’re getting ready to have a bowel movement, but if you went to the bathroom before you got started, this should never happen.
Once you get the tip of the butt plug inside, work it in further very slowly, and always stop the activity if it ever becomes painful or uncomfortable for you.
You must insert the plug very slowly in order to relax the muscles; only proceed a small distance when you feel ready.
Remember that each of the muscles, as well as each section of those muscles, has to be stretched out before you go any further, which takes some time.
In fact, at some point, you’ll reach the sphincter muscle, and this muscle is especially tight, which means it may take you some time to get past it painlessly.
The key, of course, is to use a lot of lube and a little patience, and another important tip is to always remember to breathe. Some people get nervous and tense up, and then they forget to breathe naturally.
When you do this, all of your muscles tighten up, including your anal muscles, and this makes it much more difficult to insert your butt plug.
As long as you’re using your butt plug, you have to remember to keep breathing normally, because this is the best way to keep things comfortable.
Another piece of advice is to quit right away if you experience any pain, discomfort, or tearing. This is particularly true if you’ve already used a lot of lubricant and reapplied it frequently.
If you experience pain or bleeding while playing with your butt plug, stop immediately and look into the issue so that you can find an effective solution. Pain or bleeding is a sign that something is wrong.
STAGE THREE: FULL INSERTION
Since each person’s experience varies, only you will be able to determine when it’s time to fully insert your butt plug. On the day that you end up inserting the butt plug all the way, you’ll likely feel like celebrating, and with good reason.
It’s an incredible feeling to play with a butt plug when your anus is ready, and even if it takes you a while to get there, it will be well worth the wait.
Take your time with your butt plug once it’s fully inserted.
Push it in and out, explore the inner parts of the anus and rectum, and if you’re a man, don’t forget to massage and rub that prostate gland some so that you can enjoy the benefits of this action.
Let your prostate receive the care it deserves and desires—there are even butt plugs available with a slightly curved tip designed specifically for that use.
People who are fond of butt plugs will typically describe them as “full” when asked about their feelings after they are fully inserted.
Butt plugs produce a sense of fullness like few other sex toys do, and don’t worry if that fullness feels like you’re going to have a bowel movement.
Again, this is not likely to happen, so just enjoy the exotic feeling of fullness and go with it.
Take your time as you play with your butt plug, and get creative once it’s inside of you. After all, this is the fun part of the process, so spend some time on it and get to know what you like and don’t like in the bedroom.
You are the only one who will know what makes you happy, and part of the fun with butt plugs is figuring out what your body wants.
STAGE FOUR: REMOVAL
If you’ve learned anything so far, it is the fact that you should take your butt plug activity slowly, and this is especially important when it comes to removing it.
damage to sensitive muscle tissue, resulting in pain and sensitivity.
Instead, never attempt to remove a butt plug unless you are completely relaxed and ready, and even then, proceed slowly.
You may still need to reapply lube at this point. Don’t feel like you’re wasting your lube because you’re using it to help remove your butt plug, because removing the plug, like inserting it, requires anal muscles that are prepared for the activity.
Pull it out slowly, and if you feel dry or the plug becomes stuck at any point, add more lubricant.
Consider removing your butt plug in two stages. First, you must remove the widest section, which can be difficult at times because your sphincter muscles will be clenched tightly at this point.
This is why it is a good idea to work hard to release the sphincter muscles as much as possible, as well as continue to breathe properly. Soon, the wide end of the butt plug will be completely out of the anus.
The second part of the removal begins at this point, but it is also the simplest.
Once the sphincter muscles are relaxed and the widest section of the butt plug is removed, the rest of the plug should slide out easily, but that doesn’t mean you can perform this step quickly.
Continue to go slowly until the entire butt plug is removed, and if you’re concerned about making a mess, you can lay a towel down before you get started.
FEELINGS AFTER REMOVAL: THE COME DOWN
By the time your butt plug is removed, you’ll have a complete sense of fulfillment and contentment. You may even be a little bit tired, but you will definitely not be unsatisfied or tense.
It might take some time for you to recover from the experience, so lie down and unwind for a while. You could even try deep breathing exercises for a short while.
Just lie or sit there and revel in the moment for a while before you do anything else.
Additionally, you should be aware that, similar to sexual activity, playing with a butt plug can get messy. This means that placing towels on the bed before you get started can make cleaning up afterward a lot easier and faster.
It’s also advisable to go to the bathroom and relieve yourself if only to make sure you’re clean “down there.” If you’d like, you can even take a bath or a shower.
After playing with a butt plug, you should always clean the toy completely so that it’s ready for play the next time. For optimal results, clean butt plugs using a mild soap and warm water, then allow them to air dry.
Although it doesn’t take much time, this task is very essential. Dirty sex toys are not healthy for you, nor are they safe, which means regularly cleaning them is a must.
Both men and women can enjoy butt plug play, and the easiest and safest way to engage in this kind of activity is to integrate butt plugs gradually. As time goes on, you may become more adventurous and look into other kinks to go along with using butt plugs. If you have a partner, dip your toes into bondage play and get handcuffed to your bed; let your partner play with your butthole while you are tied to your bed.
Ultimately, you can become familiar with butt plugs sooner than you may imagine and experience enjoyable anal stimulation for the rest of your life by following a few basic guidelines, applying a lot of lubricant, and moving very slowly.
Samantha Silk is a pseudonymous author known for her elegant and tasteful approach to adult product reviews and sex education. With a background in literature, Samantha weaves together words that celebrate intimacy while maintaining a sense of sophistication.