Welcome to the guide to anal sex for beginners!
Welcome to the guide to anal sex for beginners!
Have you tried anal penetration yet? If not, you’re missing out on a lot of fun! The anus has many nerve endings, and those can give you many sexual pleasures when done right. Anal stimulation is exciting, enjoyable, and most importantly, safe.
But we understand that many people think this sex act is icky or even painful. That’s perfectly normal and nothing to be ashamed of. However, rest assured that we are here to assist you at each and every step.
Let’s start by discussing how anal sex feels, then go on to our beginner’s anal guide, and finally, some good positions for newcomers. Move along!
Table of Contents
Is Anal Sex Safe?
Is anal sex safe? If done right, the answer is a resounding YES! We’ve done it for over 10 years, and based on our experiences, plus the many medical sources claiming it’s safe, you can do it without worrying.
What Does Anal Sex Feel Like?
In the beginning, it was very intense and overwhelming. With an added sense of pressure deep inside, the sensations are mostly located around the sphincter muscle. Deep anal pressure gradually increases in pleasure over time, culminating in a powerful anal orgasm. you are about to find that you enjoy the outward thrust more than the internal thrust.
This Reddit post has numerous women sharing their experiences with anal sex if you’re interested in learning more about how it feels. For instance:
- “It initially makes you feel like you need to go to the bathroom, but you find the feeling pretty very quickly goes and is quickly replaced by a wonderful pleasure. Everything there is felt by me. My anus is really sensitive, and the in and out motion is very enjoyable. I adore the sensation of him barging in and filling me completely.”
- “It acts as a kind of force multiplier for powerful orgasms. Any sensation I could get from clitoral stimulation is multiplied by a factor of ten, and the orgasm is more of a full-body sensation coming from the entire pelvis than just the clitoris.”
- “It does start out feeling like I have to poop, yeah, but with some relaxation and a good partner, that feeling goes away after half a minute and is replaced by a deep pleasure.”
Is anal feeling well? Find out more in this manual.
9 Steps For A First-Time Anal Sex Success
You’ve made the decision to attempt anal sex at last, then. I love that! But how exactly do you perform this sex act?
No problem! This anal sex for beginners guide will give you all the information you need to get going. After all, we want you to get the most out of this unique sex play, so let’s get started.
Our anal sex instructions have been broken down into a few simple steps. Please remember that while these instructions worked for us, your situation may require that you make changes.
1. Interaction
Talk to your partner about sex. And by that, I don’t simply mean initially. Maintain open channels of communication before, during, and after your anal excursion.
If your partner answers yes, terrific. If not, never push her to participate if she doesn’t want to. You might start by asking her if she’s comfortable with adding it to your sex life.
Anything less is considered abuse and manipulation, which are not accepted. Consent, trust, and communication are vital.
Talking is also essential when engaging in anal intercourse for the first time. If your receiving partner is fine or if you’re performing it correctly, you should ask her. You can experiment with different motions to see which is most comfortable for you both.
Finally, discuss it later. Encouraged to express sentiments and ideas regarding anal sex. Are you likely to want it frequently? How can you make future anal play more enjoyable?
Being honest about such things can increase how much you enjoy anal stimulation.
Pro Tip :
Safe sex is really important. In order to prevent the spread of STIs during sexual activity, please use a condom.
2. Start by doing your own tests
It’s a good idea to try it out on your own before doing it to someone else.
Most people begin by using one or two lubricated fingers. The finest anal sex toys for beginners, according to our research, are usually dildos, butt plugs, anal beads, or vibrators.
3. Eat Lightly
Human feces passing through the anus may be the only aspect of anal sex that individuals are terrified of. They find the concept of having a poo on their anal area—or, in the case of men, their cock—to be repulsive.
However, there is a fix for it.
It’s important to eat light the day before if you intend to engage in anal intercourse. Before doing these sexual acts, you should use the restroom to relieve yourself of waste.
4. Cleaning
Before anal intercourse, the anal area must be cleaned. Douching, also known as an enema, is sometimes preferred to clear up needless blockages in the anus, but it’s not always essential, especially if you have been eating lightly the days prior.
You only need to wash the outside to be ready to travel!
Everything you need to know about getting ready for an anal is in this tutorial.
5. Lubricants
Remember that the anus doesn’t naturally produce lubricant, unlike vaginal stimulation. It’s quite tight and dry. Therefore, you need to use enough lubrication, especially if a condom isn’t being used.
There are many different types of lubrication available; we’ll explain more about it later.
Pro Tip :
Baby wipes are another item to keep around, as a pro tip. I’ll be grateful later.
6. Start Slow
Foreplay is the best way to get ready for anal intercourse. Have your partner massage your inner thighs, lower back, and anal sphincter towards the end.
Have your partner perform a “rim job” lick your ass on you as another effective anal play warmup.
7. Relax/Breathe
Another reason why you need to have foreplay is to keep you relaxed, both physically and mentally, about what will happen next. Your anal muscles may constrict if you’re anxious, which will make it more difficult for your man’s cock to enter you.
Pro Tip :
My personal pro tip is to breathe in during the inner push and out during the outer thrust.
8. Stop If It Hurts!
Anal play is frequently difficult and painful, especially for beginners.
Ask your partner to stop right away if you experience any pain or discomfort. Anal play should be enjoyable for you both.
9. Dealing With Anal Sex Aftermath
So you’ve finally had anal sex. What’s next?
You should do a proper cleanup, and we prefer to shower together to remove all lube and mess we’ve created. Clean yourself up thoroughly!
Once you’re done, you can go back and cuddle in bed. Enjoy the blissful afterglow of your first experience with backdoor sex and the knowledge that you may both be satisfied in this way.
Pro Tip:
Never switch from anal to vaginal sex. Numerous bacteria found in the anus might result in yeast infections or urinary tract infections (UTIs).
How To Douche For Anal Sex
Douching isn’t necessary prep work for anal training. But there’s no harm in doing it at all before the highly anticipated sexual activity. Many couples prefer douching because it gives them peace of mind knowing everything is clean.
Want to give this anal sex technique a try? Then you should read our guide on how to douche!
Which Lube is Best For Anal Sex?
The definition of great lube comes down to thickness and duration. Water-based lube doesn’t last very long but is compatible with anybody and anything. On the other hand, silicone-based lube will last longer but is not compatible with silicone sex toys or some condom types.
To help you out, we have compiled a comprehensive anal lube guide, which you can find here.
Important: Only use latex condoms and sex toys for bareback sex as oil- and silicone-based lubrication can harm their materials.
Best Anal Sex Positions For Beginners
The following four sex positions are available for your first anal attempt. They’re also great options to add some variety to your repertoire. With a lot of communication, patience, and technique, you can get to the best butt sex sessions of your life.
Doggy Style
The greatest anal sex position for novices is the traditional doggy position with a slight modification.
First, have the receiver lower their head and upper body on the bed. A sex wedge can provide the necessary support for this position, but any pillow will do. The angle allows the G-spot and prostate gland to align closer to the surface, meaning better stimulation (learn how to do a prostate massage here).
Use a dildo for a double penetration experience in your vagina. And if you’re interested in learning how to perform double anal penetration, check out this great guide.
Cowgirl
The majority of couples should be comfortable in this position because it makes sense for anal sex. If you’ve never been on top, it’s also a nice position to try.
The ability to interchange roles is the best aspect of being a cowgirl. With their upper body weight and leg strength driving the action, the receiver has complete control. Few other places naturally allow for it to be as deep and quick as the receiver desires.
Missionary
You can modify the missionary position by resting the receiver’s legs on the giver’s shoulders or around the waist, giving the receiver the necessary support to curve their back for as long as their legs can hold.
Spooning
The spooning position is great for partners who enjoy taking their time during sex. Many couples cite it as the easiest anal position since it is adaptable and comfortable.
Whether the couple is facing one another or the same way, anal intercourse is allowed in this posture. Although anal penetration is much shallower, the posture nevertheless makes it simple for both parties to reach each other’s bodies.
More of the ideal anal sex positions are available here.
Last Words
Anal sex is a wonderful way to show your partner how much you care. It strengthened your bond and heated up your sexual encounters. Additionally, it offers various health advantages!
I sincerely hope our beginner’s anal sex advice was useful to you. Send us an email if you have any further questions or would want to discuss different anal sex methods.
PS: Interested in reversing roles? Then I urge you to check out our spicily written history of anal sex and a guide to anal gaps!
